When people ask me how I plan to spend Valentine's Day, I have to admit that my answer usually disappoints. You see, I try to treat every day as a special day. When my husband and I began dating, I told him that I wanted each day to count, and that anyone who wants to share a life with me had to be prepared to share that philosophy.
Don't buy me roses for Valentine's Day. Plant a rose garden so I can enjoy roses from spring thru fall. Buy me a gift for no reason - it doesn't have to be costly. It just has to say, "I saw this and I thought of you."
Write me a love letter. Make a memory. Cook a special dinner for me. Remember how I take my coffee.
It's all about the thought behind the action. I don't want something because it is expected. I want something because it is heartfelt. That means more to me than diamonds.
So often, people have expectations that far exceed reality, and they are disappointed. You cannot make someone behave in a way that is uncomfortable. Some people are thoughtful, romantic and frivolous. Others are practical, forgetful, or pragmatic. That doesn't mean that they don't care. Try letting your partner know before hand what it is that will make you happy. In spite of what we believe, have never met a man who was a mind reader.
Take care to NOT set yourself up for a letdown. Be realistic.
Not everyone has a special someone to celebrate Valentine's Day with. For some, it is a day of loneliness, sadness, disappointment. Why not get some of your friends together and open a bottle of champagne? Book a massage. Read a good book. See a funny movie.
Stop waiting for socially sanctioned holidays to make your life special. Make every day count.
About Coach Caprio
- Mike & Mary Caprio
- Mike and Mary purchased their future retirement home on a whim following the snowbound New Jersey winter of 2010/2011. An episode of House Hunters International convinced them that St. Thomas would be an ideal location to live out their golden years. However, they still have a few years to go before they can pack it in and head to the beautiful island paradise that they plan to call home. In the mean time, they are renting their home and hoping that other people will enjoy this cozy island condo as much as they do.
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I agree with your sentiments exactly. My wife and I, although not wealthy, are comfortable and have many possesions. We always try to make "memories" whenever possible.
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